Find who you are in the Father’s love
Have you ever answered the question « who am I ? »
If I put a mirror in front of you, could you say you know exactly what you see ?
Do you know who you are ?
The first time somebody asked me this question, I was standing in front of the mirror with no answer, only a deep feeling of fear and shame. This was years ago, and it was the begining of a wonderful journey with God, learning who I am by knowing who He is.
There are many ways to define who we are. One of the most common ways in the world is to say what we do. When we first meet people, we rarely ask « who are you », but rather say « what do you do in life ? ». We learn to introduce ourselves through things we do or external characteristics. But this doesn’t tell anybody who we are on the inside, that deep level of identity that we often surround with walls of protecion, not allowing anybody to come close, sometimes not even God.
Let’s have a look today at who we really are. We will find the best answer in what God Himself says about it. This might bring freedom in our lives and take us deeper in our love for ourselves, for God and for others.
The Bible says…
You did not receive the « spirit of religious duty », leading you back into the fear of never being good enough. But you have received the « Spirit of full acceptance », enfolding you into the family of God. And you will never feel orphaned, for as he rises up within us, our spirits join him in saying the words of tender affection, « Beloved Father ! » For the Holy Spirit makes God’s fatherhood real to us as he whispers into our innermost being, « You are God’s beloved child ! » (Romans 8/15-16) You did not receive the « spirit of religious duty », leading you back into the fear of never being good enough. But you have received the « Spirit of full acceptance », enfolding you into the family of God. And you will never feel orphaned, for as he rises up within us, our spirits join him in saying the words of tender affection, « Beloved Father ! » For the Holy Spirit makes God’s fatherhood real to us as he whispers into our innermost being, « You are God’s beloved child ! » (Romans 8/15-16)
YOU ARE GOD’S BELOVED CHILD !
You have been created in the image of God, to enjoy a father-child relationship where your deepest needs for love are met, and this only because you are His beloved child. You have His DNA, His caracteristics and His nature within you. Who you are is very good. This is the truth God is speaking over you.
Do you believe it ? I mean not only your head, but does your heart really believe it ?
Why is this simple truth so hard for many of us to receive?
The story of the fall…
In the garden of Eden, Adam and Eve were enjoying a perfect relationship with their Father. Satan came to bring confusion. He told them they were not yet in the image of God (in other words, that they were not enough!), but if they would eat the forbiden fruits from the tree of knwoledge, they would become like God. He made them believe that they didn’t need God. He said that there was another way to become like God, out of relationship, by doing something God said not to do.
But you need a Father to be a son or a daughter. Without a Father, you are an orphan. Adam and Eve became orphans. They lost their perfect love relationship with the Father and forgot who they were.
Somebody said once that the Bible is the story of a Dad who lost his children in a garden and does everything to find them…
This is our story.
We are made for a relationship with a perfect Father who day by day tells us who we are : His beloved sons and daugthers.
We have inherited from our parents, since Adam and Eve, an orphan spirit that leads us into all kind of dysfonctional behaviors, sins and hurts. There is a void inside us that is left empty because we are no longer living in the intimate relationship with our Father. Our hearts have been filled with fear and shame. We spend our lives seeking an answer to this question : who am I ? what is my worth ?
The inheritance of Orphans is fear and shame. These are the roots of our ungodly behaviors and beliefs : unworthyness, fear of rejection, fear of failure, jealousy, competition, control, loneliness, perfectionism, performance…
Like Adam and Eve, orphans hide because of fear and shame. They hide behind what they do, and build walls around their hearts. They are afraid to be known because they beleive a lie that says that they are not good enough, not worthy of love… that same lie Satan said to Adam and Eve in the garden.
Our broken way to fix the problem
You did not receive the « spirit of religious duty », leading you back into the fear of never being good enough.
The story of the prodigual son is the story of all orphans : the ones who try to fix their feeling of not being good enough and thier need of receiving love.
One son left the Father’s home, tried to survive in a world without protection, fell very low, came back to God covered with shame and said« I will no longer be worthy to be called your son. Please, Father, just treat me like one or your employees » (Luke 15/17-18).He wanted to become a servant to pay his debt and earn acceptance.
The oldest son in the story never left the Father’s house. He never left the church. He served faithfully saying « Father, listen ! How many years have I been working like a slave for you, performing every duty you’ve asked as a faithful son ? » (Luke 15/29), but he was still fighting against unworthyness and was outside of intimacy with the Father. The Father answered Him « My son, you are always with me by my side. Everything I have is yours to enjoy ». (Luke 15/31)
Whichever story is ours, our shame-based belief system makes us want to earn our place in the Father’s home through what we do, even when His love is already ours.
You are not what you do. You are not the bad, or the good things you do. You are not your failures, and you are not your performance. Who you are is not dependant on what you do. Who you are is defined by a perfect and loving Father declaring that YOU ARE HIS BELOVED CHILD.
Jesus : the truth that sets us free and takes us back home
But you have received the « Spirit of full acceptance », enfolding you into the family of God.
Jesus came to show us the Father. He came to find the orphans and take them back to the Father’s home. In the Father’s love, we are found again, adopted and restored in the image of God.
When Jesus got baptized, before He started His ministry, the Father said : « this is my beloved son in whom I am well pleased ». Before Jesus had time to do anything to earn His approbation, God introduced him to the world as His beloved son, not as his faithful servant,
The Father is declaring the same words over you.
He sends this message to an entire world of orphans.
Jesus can, and wants, to take eveyone back home, back to the perfect love relationship Adam and Eve enjoyed in the garden of Eden with their Father. He is the way and the truth.
He says « You are my righteous Father… I have revealed to them who you are and I will continue to make you even more real to them, so that they may experience the same endless love that you have for me. » (John 17/25-26)
The Father wants to adopt all of his children. There is nothing more powerful than a generation of orphans who are set free by truth and empowerd by love, who will rise up in the world as children of God and release this transformation power in the nations, not only by what they do, but through who they are.
When this truth came knocking at my door, the Father’s love bacame like a Mirror that reflected my true identity. I saw His face, His love, His acceptance and His affection. There’s no more need to strive making myself do what a Christian girl is supposed to do. He has made me His daughter, and from this identity flows life. It’s process going from glory to glory… « with no veil we all become like mirrors who brightly reflect the glory of the Lord Jesus. We are being transfigured into his very image as we move from one brighter lever of glory to another. » (2 cor. 3/18)
Do you want to go home ?
Do you know you are loved, no matter what you do ?
Do you want to let the Father call you son or daughter ?
You can pray…
Jesus, thank you for showing me the Father. You are my Savior and you are the way to the Father. I am asking you today to take me close to my Father. I want to know Him. I choose to let go of my performance, my failures, my shame and my fears. I give it to you Jesus, and I am trusting you to take me back home. Holy Spirit, I pray you will fill my heart, I am not an orphan anymore, I receive the Father’s love and adoption. I receive my identity. I receive freedom. I am worthy, perfectly made. I am the beloved child of God. Who I am is good. Thank you Father. Amen.
Article by Friends of Raviv’France
Written by Maude